Guest Author: "Feeling Just Fine with Your Fantasies" by Beth Kery

Wednesday, July 29

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When I decided to try and put together this themed week, I knew right away that I wanted to feature Sweet Restraint even though it had not yet been released.

The first book of Beth's that I read was Daring Time, and I was initially attracted to it because it involved time travel. I've been a fan of books that had this element ever since reading Diana Gabaldon's Outlander series, so was excited at the prospect this book promised. After I finished reading Daring Time, which I absolutely loved, I knew that I had found a new author that I would be following.

When I read that Sweet Restraint featured some aspects of BDSM, I did not hesitate to put it on my wish list, even though it was a topic that I normally did not read. I trusted that Beth Kery would write a great love story that I could identify with no matter the subject matter. I am currently reading Sweet Restraint, and can honestly say it does not disappoint. I can't wait to find out how Shane helps Laura despite her secrets...

This time, he’ll never let her go…

Chicago Special Agent Shane Dominic was in love with Laura Vasquez until the day she left him and married another man. Thirteen years may have passed, but Laura’s never disappeared from his fantasies, or destroyed his desire to learn the truth about why she left him. When her husband, the criminal mastermind behind an international ring of thieves, is murdered, Shane knows this is his one last, desperate chance to learn Laura’s secrets. And he’s not above using their scorching hot passion for one another and a little domination to do it.

One look at Shane, and Laura’s own memories come back to haunt her. Her feelings run deep, but she’d never divulge her secrets—a desperate vow that’s compromised when Shane stuns her by taking her as his captive to a secluded cabin. Here, she will finally belong to him, be subjected to his every tortuously erotic whim, and be forced to trust him with a shocking truth she’s hidden for so long—one that will expose them to a danger closing in on the both of them.

want to read more...keep reading this post for a bonus excerpt below


Feeling Just Fine with Your Fantasies

Most romance readers would readily agree that romance is a fantasy. However, it becomes more difficult to remember the same is true of erotic romance. Some people like to live out their erotic fantasies, but for most people, fantasies remain in the very private world of the individual.

Sexual fantasy is a common human experience. Although most people don’t commonly share the things they imagine for sexual excitement or fulfillment, that doesn’t make what I’m saying any less true. People fantasize about sex. People fantasize before sex. They fantasize during sex.

A very wise person once said that the most important sex organ in the human body is the brain, and I couldn’t agree more.

So what does this have to do with reading an erotic romance that includes bondage or themes of submission and dominance? I think many women become uncomfortable when they’re aroused by such content. Not all women, by any means, but many. They wonder what it says about them if they could become aroused by bondage fantasies or submission fantasies. Here’s where it becomes important to delineate fantasy from reality. Some people might fantasize about certain sexual acts and choose to enact them. Many people don’t, however. That doesn’t mean that the act of fantasy isn’t important, however, as a means of individual and sexual expression.

In fact, fantasy is crucial to sexual expression and sexual identity.

Enacting those fantasies can be fine, too, but I’m focusing here today on what goes on in the head, not the bed.

I think that women today have so much on their shoulders. We have to be in total control of our careers, our relationships and our families. There is a certain appeal that comes with the idea of control being taken away…an allure that a woman may or may not decide to live out in real life. Such a fantasy is fraught with feelings of shame, anger and guilt. After all, the modern woman is taught that she must be independent and in control at all times. Dependency needs—not just for females but for males as well—carry a negative connotation, signifying weakness and helplessness.

Letting go is one thing, but to be forced into submitting to another—and thus one’s own desire—is powerful psychological material, indeed.

Do I think that BDSM or D/s content is for everyone? No, not at all. My point is that what turns you on in fantasy doesn’t have to be something you do in real life. Your fantasies are your own, and no one else’s. They don’t make you weak or strange or perverted. It doesn’t make you selfish for getting turned on by your fantasies and then wanting to share sex with someone else. (Men have been fantasizing before, during and after sex forever and never felt guilty about it. Women shouldn’t either.)

Given their proper forum, I believe healthy fantasies can improve not only sexual expression, but self-confidence and self-esteem. I always joke with my husband that women who read erotic romance are some of the most confident and down-to-earth people I’ve ever met. Knowing what turns you on and owning it (to yourself, at the very least) is, in my opinion, a strong act of self-pride.

Bonus Excerpt from Sweet Restraint:

Her anxious thoughts fueled her performance.

“What, are you worried I’ve got more experience in the bondage arena than you?” she asked, injecting as much scorn in her tone as she could muster.

He gave a small smile. “I think my experience will be sufficient. Now, are you going to lie down or what? The sooner you do the sooner we can both get some rest.”

Laura gave him a mutinous glance before she bent, unzipped her brown leather boots and kicked them off carelessly.

“What did you mean by that? Do you really get into bondage?” she asked. Her tone was purposefully condescending, but she was curious about his response. She lay on her back on the bed, trying not to reveal her anxiety when he bent and leaned over her. Shane believed she had experience with being restrained on a regular basis, after all.

He didn’t make eye contact with her as he begun to unbutton her blouse in a brisk, matter-of-fact manner. Laura’s skin pebbled and her nipples grew erect against the material of her bra when she was exposed to the cool air. He opened his mouth, as though he meant to answer her, but he went completely still instead.

She glanced down to here he stared so fixedly. The pendant on her necklace nestled in the valley of her breasts. A whimper rose in her throat when Shane touched the piece of cut glass with a long finger. The pendant was slightly larger than a quarter in diameter and approximately a half inch thick toward the top. It had been shaped to roughly resemble a heart.

“Do you wear this often?”

“I…yes,” Laura replied, confused by his intensity. “It…It’s not real, but I always thought it was pretty anyway.”

He looked up at her. “How do you know it’s not a real emerald?”

Laura couldn’t stop the blush from heating her cheeks. She knew because she’d taken all of the jewelry Huey had given her during the first year of their marriage—including her wedding ring—in order to sell it. Huey had gambled away his paychecks from the CPD even back then, and Laura could have used the assurance of a nest egg given the bizarre, tenuous circumstances in which she existed. She’d been vigilant about preparing for an emergency since the day she’d been horrified to discover that her bonds to Huey Mays were tied off with steel knots.

She’d already suspected that the emerald was a fake—it was the type of gem one would expect in a prince’s crown, not a cop’s wife’s jewelry box. But she’d at least expected some of the smaller items to be real.

At least her wedding ring.

But perhaps it made the most sense of all that her wedding ring was a fake. Not a particularly clever one either, Laura thought as she recalled the jewelry appraiser’s glance of amused disbelief when she showed it to him.

“Don’t you think I’d know if my own necklace was a piece of glass or a priceless emerald?” she asked Shane bitterly.

He didn’t respond for a moment. His fingertip remained on the multi-faceted surface of the pendant. She knew it was just her imagination but his touch seemed to enliven the trapped fires in the glass, making her skin tingle and burn.

“It’s almost the precise color of your eyes.”

Her heartbeat began to throb loudly in her ears at his low, intimate tone.

She breathed a shaky sigh of relief when he finally moved, reaching behind her to unhook her bra. She shivered when he whisked it off her shoulders and arms and tossed it aside. Laura couldn’t say if she was disappointed or glad when he didn’t even glance at her exposed flesh and reached for her wrists instead.

Her breasts felt strangely large…obvious and vulnerable-prey even though Laura knew very well that the size of them could be labeled ‘medium-sized’ at best. She was acutely aware of her stretched naked torso as he secured her wrists inside the cuff, than used an attached connector hook to attach her to the straps.

“You never answered me. Is bondage really your thing?” she asked as she tugged experimentally on the cuffs and straps once he’d finished. They seemed more than secure. Her fingers couldn’t reach the silver buckle on the back of her wrists. Unlike the metal handcuffs that he’d used earlier, the straps restraining her snugly at present were made of soft, supple leather. She likely would grow stiff from having her arms over her head all night, but at least her elbows were bent and resting comfortably on the pillow.

Shane reached behind her to unzip her skirt. He eventually spoke but Laura wished he would have at least made eye contact with her when he went about this intimate business.

“Does that surprise you?” he asked gruffly. He wore a small smile as he swept her skirt and panties down her thighs.

No, it didn’t. Shane had always been a dominant, alpha male. People had responded to his calm confidence since they were children, looking to him instinctively for leadership and guidance. Even though he’d never used the paraphernalia of the trade on her, so to speak, when they’d been lovers in the past, he’d mastered her heart, mind and senses effortlessly in his bed.

Still, his smug little smile irked her.

“My my, this is news,” she taunted. She gritted her teeth when he paused and stared down at her completely naked body with the exception of her thigh high stockings. “Who’d of thought the all-American boy was into kink?”

“Who’d have thought the girl-next-door was?” he countered flatly as he attached the cuff to her right ankle.


You can find Beth on her website, blog, Myspace, Facebook, & her Yahoo group Total Exposure.

Many sincere thanks to Beth for agreeing to be my guest. I think her thoughts really hold true to what my experiences reading all of these books featured this week have been.

All of my Seductive Musings readers and followers are really really lucky because Beth is giving away Sweet Restraint to one very fortunate commenter! All you have to do to enter is leave a meaningful comment.

And don't forget you can earn 5 extra entries to win Lilli Feisty's book Bound to Please by blogging about Beth's guest post & giveaway at Seductive Musings. See the Monday's Muse post this week for specifics on how to gain these entries.

How to enter the Beth Kery giveaway:

  • To enter you must leave a meaningful comment

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Good Luck!!!

Join us tomorrow for another special guest, Maya Banks


Lea July 29, 2009 at 7:59 AM  

Good Morning Beth and Carrie!

Excellent post and insight with respect to sexual fantasies, Beth.

As a reader, I historically was not altogether comfortable with novels that contained BDSM themes in the narrative. However, that has changed after finding authors such as yourself who can instill love and such emotion into the relationship.

I think you are quite correct with respect to healthy sexual fantasies improving one's overall feelings of self worth. Certainly, not feeling guilty with respect to reading about those fantasies is integral to that enlightenment. IMHO...

Carrie, please don't enter me in the contest. I already have SR and loved it.

Best to you both.

Laney4 July 29, 2009 at 8:29 AM  

First of all, I'd like to thank Lea for posting about BDSM and IMHO. I just found their definitions.
I have seen BDSM occasionally and wondered what it meant. Knew it was probably something about which I had no clue. Yup. I don't believe I have ever read a book with that; however, based on your excerpt, I think I might just enjoy it in this case. Your excerpt doesn't seem as crass (for lack of a better word) as some I've seen. To that end, I would love to win a copy and read the book in its entirety.
As for IMHO, I like that abbreviation! I've never seen it before, but I think I'll try it!
Thanks for opening my eyes in so many ways, Megan (and Lea)!

Mary G July 29, 2009 at 9:34 AM  

Wow Beth
That's the best description I've read on the part of fantasies in our lives. Why should be BDSM be different than anything else? I've read many genres, many love combinations, shapeshifters etc. It doesn't mean that I want that for me, but I can enjoy reading about it or thinking about it. For those of you who haven't read Beth's books (Wicked Burn as well as Daring Time & Sweet Restraint)be prepared for a rollercoaster ride of emotion. Her words & phrasing are so beautiful that I have reread certain passsages over & over again & I'm not talking about just the love scenes. Please don't enter me in the contest as I have all of Beth's wonderful books.

Chris July 29, 2009 at 9:42 AM  

Beth - the last two paragraphs of your post are absolutely perfect. Exactly so!

flchen1 July 29, 2009 at 10:38 AM  

Hi, Beth!

Thanks for the terrific post--I completely agree! Since much of satisfying sex starts in our heads and hearts, a healthy shared fantasy life can be the biggest turn-on in real life as well!

Definitely looking forward to Shane and Laura's story!


Anonymous,  July 29, 2009 at 11:08 AM  

Good Morning,
Great post.I love the excerpts.
I haven't yet read a Beth Kery book(I have on sitting on the top of my TBR pile).
But have read reviews on other blogs,
everyone really enjoys your books.I look forward to reading them.

Willow Brook July 29, 2009 at 11:23 AM  

Great post. I'm hearing so many good things about Beth's work recently. Based on all the buzz, I've bought Daring Time and am really looking forward to reading it. Thanks for making your books available on Kindle -- my main way of reading these days!

Cheryl McInnis July 29, 2009 at 11:27 AM  

Hi Beth and Carrie!
What a great post~
I didn't start reading erotic romance, or really any romance, until I was in my late twenties.
I really wish that I had started earlier, because reading about different fantasies and the ways to explore them really helped me become more comfortable with my own ;-)

Nicole Morgan July 29, 2009 at 11:43 AM  

Hi Beth and Carrie (Nicole waves),

Carrie you know this isn't the first time I've visited your site. However sometimes I'm just not sure what to write as a comment. As usual though Beth has reached into the depths of my mind and snatched some of my thoughts up.

I swear Beth, the way you say things is remarkable. Yes I could go on and say you're a talented writer (which you are) or I could say you have fantastic storylines (which you do), but that wouldn't do you and certainly not your little interview/essay justice.

I think you hit the nail on the head with a lot of what you said. In fact when you say that while some women might be into the BDSM fantasy or even erotic fantasy it just isn't for everyone. Which I agree with, but I wonder how many women are out there that are intrigued, fascinated, aroused, or whatever word you choose by these topics but just don't know it.

I'll be the guinea pig and use myself as an example because I agree so much with what you said. If you had asked me a few years ago if BDSM or erotica excited me I would have laughed. Nora Roberts was my cup of tea.

Well, an accidental purchase from the clearance bin at my local Borders changed that. FOREVER. When I first realized the type of book I was reading, (the cover and back blurb were, THANK GOD, a bit misleading) I was shocked! Then I was like, I'm gonna stop reading this right now. Okay, just one more page, then before you knew it I had cranked up the air conditioner and dove in.

Now I can't even pick up a Nora Roberts book. Is her writing good, absolutely, but I've found that is not the genre that my mind truly craves.

Thank you Beth and Carrie for inviting to to the site today to read an insightful and thought provoking subject.

Winks ~ Nicole

Amy M,  July 29, 2009 at 12:23 PM  

I think that what you said Beth is so true. There is nothing wrong with having fantasies or reading what you like. You are not ever hurting anyone else by reading erotic fiction. It is something that probably makes you realize something a little more about yourself.

Please do not enter me into the contest. I already have the book and oh man it is very good! I really, really loved it alot. My first Beth Kery read, but for sure not the last!!

Amy M

beth kery July 29, 2009 at 12:38 PM  

Hi all!
Carrie, I'd like to thank you for having me at your blog. It's a great theme, and I'm honored to be included with so many talented authors.

I'm glad the post struck a chord in some people. Thanks very much for the interesting comments. I think women are so diverse and complex in their sexuality, and they might have very different expections and arousal points in the head versus the bed. :)

I hope everyone has a terrific day!

Cathy M July 29, 2009 at 12:58 PM  

What a wonderfully thoughtful post, Beth. I love the fantasy world I get to explore in erotic romance stories. I know what I like to read in a well written love story, and I enjoy every moment of it. Thanks for the extra peek at Sweet Restraint, I can't wait to start it.

Anonymous,  July 29, 2009 at 1:04 PM  

great o see u here
have sweet book

Anonymous,  July 29, 2009 at 1:25 PM  

Thank you so much for your insightful comments. For me, erotic romance has changed my life in so many good ways - the biggest being that I'm now comfortable with talking about sex and wanting to experiment and my hubby appreciates this (LOL obviously) because he's always been very open but I come from a very prudish background. So after 21 years of marriage, I can honestly say the sex has never been better :D
And btw that excerpt has me totally intrigued...

JMom July 29, 2009 at 1:40 PM  

I like what you wrote about fantasies. I don't think I would ever be inclined towards BDSM but I am fascinated by the idea and love reading about it. So for me it will always be a fantasy.

Erotic romance is something I just recently got into and growing to appreciate it more the more I read. The excerpt to this book certainly intrigued me. I would love to read more!

bridget3420 July 29, 2009 at 1:42 PM  

I agree. Fantasies are healthy. They are the key to my survival;)


beth kery July 29, 2009 at 2:25 PM  

LOL, Bridget.

I think fantasies a big part of who you are. They aren't Everything. But they are something. :)

Razlover's Book Blog July 29, 2009 at 2:50 PM  

Good morning Carrie and Beth!

Great post and excerpt!

At first I wasn't sure if I wanted to read books that had BDSM but then I started reading the Anita Blake series Laurell K. Hamilton and there is a character that likes that lifestyle. After that I got use to reading books with that lifestyle.

I Heart Book Gossip July 29, 2009 at 3:46 PM  

What an interesting book. Please count me in.

cindyc725 at gmail dot com

I Heart Book Gossip July 29, 2009 at 3:46 PM  

Ms. Kery do you prefer paranormal more or fantasy?

I Heart Book Gossip July 29, 2009 at 3:52 PM  

Blogged on sidebar about this contest.

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Fiona Jayde July 29, 2009 at 3:58 PM  

Hi Beth and Carrie!!!

Beth - Very thoughtful and excellent post about fantasies:)

I loved Sweet Restraint - it was one of those books where the characters stayed with me after I closed the last page. (At one point I found myself talking to Laura)

Have a great day!

Lusty Reader July 29, 2009 at 4:11 PM  

i have seen Sweet Restaint's cover so many places online and want it more with every glance...the steamy excerpt certainly helped too!

and i loved Beth's thoughts on fantasies, very liberating!

Estella July 29, 2009 at 4:17 PM  

Please don't enter me in the contest.
I have read this books and is is an excellent read! I loved it.

Julie James July 29, 2009 at 6:21 PM  

What a great blog, Beth. Something in particular that struck me is the notion that today's women are expected to do--and have-- it all. How exhausting to be a superwoman all the time! The idea of being able to "give in," to let someone else take control, is very heady indeed.

Thanks for this fantastic post! Oh-- and no need to enter me in the giveaway-- I already have a copy of Sweet Restraint and can't wait to read it!


LORETTA CANTON July 29, 2009 at 7:25 PM  

I have read some books with BDSM but never really was comfortable with it. After reading your post I think I understand it better.


Anonymous,  July 29, 2009 at 7:30 PM  


I really enjoyed your post. I haven't read SR yet, but it is on my wishlist as I've loved your other work :)!

Pam S

Armenia July 29, 2009 at 7:52 PM  

Hi Beth and Carrie. Beth, I agree with you that fantasy is crucial to sexual expression and sexual identity. By reading such wonderful erotic novels written by you and other authors it feeds the mind, and helps the creative soul.

Thank you for a great post. I enjoyed it.

Jess July 29, 2009 at 9:40 PM  

I'm really confused by some people and their views on sex. I think people who spout what is "correct" sex wise or anything else for that matter are probably the ones with wierd things going on that they hide away. What people willingly do together is not anyone elses business and just because your not into it does not mean it's bad or wrong. jessica(at)fan(dot)com

Bella July 29, 2009 at 10:12 PM  

Wow, Beth, you are not only a great author but an extremely wise woman. I think your viewpoint is brilliant and articulated in a really accessible way. I personally love BDSM erotica, and menage erotica, maybe because both are so far from my very vanilla existence ;-) But if my relationship with my husband (and myself) benefits from it, where's the harm? I do draw the line at some authors' erotica that seems to cross the line into humiliation and degradation. That just does not turn me on.

I love your books, and this looks like another winner!

Thanks to you and Carrie for the interview and the excerpts!


CrystalGB July 30, 2009 at 1:39 PM  

Hi Beth. What a great post and excerpt. Sweet Restraint sounds good.

Lisa F. July 30, 2009 at 3:45 PM  

I have been wanting to read Sweet Restraint. I love books with BDSM in them.

Erica B. July 31, 2009 at 2:45 PM  

This book looks like an amazing read. If I don't win it, I'm definately going to have to buy it.

Rhonda July 31, 2009 at 9:05 PM  

This book looks really interesting. Great post.


Penny August 1, 2009 at 11:59 AM  

I have never read any of your books but I will start now. They all sound very interesting.

Alexa August 1, 2009 at 5:25 PM  

I seriously need to get my hand on a copy of this book because I just read the excerpt and I want more.


Kris August 1, 2009 at 11:31 PM  

Wow, the excerpt was totally hot. I love to read books that explore that need to give up control, very sexy. It sounds great, I cannot wait to read it.

Fashionably Fabulous! August 2, 2009 at 12:13 AM  

Hi Beth and Carrie.

Loved the excerpt. Makes me want to read the book, i hope i win. Your essay/interview is extremely insightful and really got me thinking, i agree 100% with it. I've never really shied away from books with BDSM themes, i just never found one that appealed to me, i mostly read what one would call traditional romance. But i recently did read one with mild BDSM themes. And after reading it, all i could say was wow, the author made the scenes very hot and i really loved it and it got me interested in other books in the genre, although like Bella said i'd never read one that crossed the line into humiliation or degradation. Thanks for a great post that gave me a lot to think about!

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