Share the Love: Or should I say where is the love?

Wednesday, March 31

Today's Share the Love post is going to be just a little bit different.  I want to talk about  what I feel is lacking in some romance novels...not all, but enough that I've been repeatedly disappointed.   Where is the "love" in romance?

For those of you who have been avid readers of my reviews you probably think I sound like a broken record sometimes when I keep saying I want to read more of the reasons why a hero and heroine fell in love...not just lust.  Give me moments when the characters confide in each other, show each other their love, or even illustrate to the reader reasons why they are falling in love, and I am a very happy booklover.  While I do feature a lot of hot and steamy romances on this blog, I also enjoy the sweeter ones that are less explicit as I'm not just talking about sex scenes.  I'm talking about moments in the book that are sigh-worthy because you can "feel" why they would be in love with the other person(s) or outside of the boudoir so to speak.

A few weeks ago I had been reading Love Letters of Great Men by John Kirkland and ran across this letter from Leo Tolstoy to Valeria Arsenew which encompassed so eloquently what I felt had been lacking in some of my romance reads:

Nov 2, 1856
Saint Petersburg

I already love in you your beauty, but I am only beginning to love in you that which is eternal and ever precious--your heart, your soul.

Beauty one could get to know and fall in love with in one hour and cease to love it as speedily;  but the soul one must learn to know.

Believe me, nothing on earth is given without labour, even love, the most beautiful and natural of feelings.

The line that stood out the most to me was "...but the soul one must learn to know".  I think that is so so very true. I want to "know" what's in the hero and heroine's heart and soul, and to deprive us of these insights and the reasons why they love is tragic and as close as a crime against romance as you can get in my opinion.  Yes, I know I am greedy..I want it all!  I want the hot lovin', the heart, the special moments, the sighs, the tears, the angst, the anger, the fears, misunderstandings...oh and some laughter every now and then would also be nice.  Maybe not all of these things in every book, because obviously they don't work for all love stories, but this is my plea to authors....give us the passion, the heart, AND the soul.  Give us a relationship that is based on more than just great sex, or other  writer methods such as action, suspense, or villains that drive the plot of the story.  I want Sex, Sighs & Souls.  I'm sending out my own SSS SOS to authors, editors, and publishers.  I'm begggging you!  I will be your booklover slave if you do.

I had been thinking about this post for a while, and in fact had planned to do it a few weeks ago until I realized that it was St. Patrick's Day so I postponed it.  Then last week I read a post by Stacy from Stacy's Place on Earth and thought that it really captured what I had been feeling too.  I wasn't the only one.  Thank you Stacy!  Thank you Leo!  Both of you are my Share the Love heroes this week.

What are your thoughts on this? Am I way off base here?  Is it just the books I've been reading? (even though most are by NYT bestselling authors)

Share the Love is a weekly meme hosted by Seductive Musings every Wednesday. 
  • Every Wednesday post whatever it is that you love on your blog or website.
  • Then leave a link to your post in the comments on the weekly Share the Love post at Seductive Musings. If you don't have a blog, that's ok you can still share the love in your comment on the weekly Seductive Musings post.
  • What can you share...well that depends on what you love :) Here are some ideas: a new blog or website, a great recipe that is a taste bud triumph, new shoes or purse that you seriously can't afford but lust after anyway, a great love story like the ones from When Harry Met Sally, a love note to someone special in your life (or wish was), a book you just adore and can't wait to share with someone, a song or CD that plays on repeat until it's worn out, poems, pictures, videos, or even baby giggles :) I think you get the idea.

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