Wednesday, December 5
Trust in any relationship is key, wouldn't you agree? It's so hard to trust someone implicitly not only with your person, but with your happiness, security, and even sometimes your secrets. Which is why once it's broken it's not easy to fix, nor find again.
My guest today, author Lynda Aicher explores the complexities of trust in a relationship in her new erotic romance, Bonds of Trust. She'll be sharing a bit about the story, including some extra special excerpts, not to mention she'll be giving away a very sexy themed gift basket. Enjoy!
In general, trust is an essential component of every healthy relationship because without it, there is nothing to build on. Trust comes in different levels and is sometimes given freely, but more often earned. For example, we trust the mailman to deliver the mail, but we don’t trust the mailman with a key to our house. The more we know someone, the more they prove themselves, the more we trust them.
In Cali and Jake’s situation, she has to give him a huge amount of trust right from the start. There are some levels of earning involved, but how many of us would be able to strip and submit to a man you’d just met that night? It’s a leap of faith because she’s literally giving herself to him and trusting that he won’t harm her physically, emotionally or mentally. As kids we do that without thought until we are burned by that naivety. The need to protect ourselves is nurtured over time based on our life experiences. By the time most of us are adults, we’ve learned how to be cautious with who we trust and with what.
I had a friend once who said that her and her husband always fought naked because then they had nothing to hide behind. Think about how vulnerable you feel without clothes. They act like a protective barrier between us and the world. Can you image kneeling naked before your partner or spouse and letting them really see all of you? How exposed and scared would you feel? What if they laugh or even worse, reject you? Do you have that kind of trust in your closest relationship?
We all have things inside of us that we keep locked away out of fear. Rejection, ridicule and humiliation are some of the main reasons we keep our secrets. In a relationship like Jake and Cali’s, he strips her of those fears. The physical acts breakdown her emotional barriers. It’s the steps. He earns her trust and at the same time she earns his by giving all of herself to him. If they didn’t have that deep level of trust in each other, then that kind of emotional freedom wouldn’t happen.
Trust is power and they both have to know that the other will never abuse it. In fact, they will cherish it. Getting rid of your secrets is a lot like unburdening your soul. It opens your heart and lets you breath. The hardest part of doing that though, is finding the person you trust enough to truly let yourself go.
After ending her passionless marriage, Cali Reynolds is eager to live out her forbidden fantasies. Her first step is attending new members' night at The Den, the most exclusive sex club in town. Perhaps here she can find a man who understands her desire to be dominated…
At first, Jake McCallister thinks Cali has come to his club for the wrong reasons. But when he discovers she is seeking fulfillment after years of denial, he's intrigued—and takes it upon himself to initiate her into the pleasures she's been missing.
Her first encounter with Jake is everything Cali has always craved, and more; she's not prepared for the feelings he inspires in her. And Jake is just as surprised by his overwhelming attraction to Cali. As their play intensifies, so does their bond. Now, Jake doesn't want anyone but Cali—but is he ready to officially claim her? And will she submit to being his forever?
Read an excerpt where Cali gets interviewed for acceptance into The Den, then read additional excerpts in the flipbook below as she has her first encounter at the club...
or read it in a Google document here.
Congrats Lynda & thanks for being my guest today! I have no doubt whatsoever that Cali is going to find everything she's been looking for at The Den...and no doubt a lot more ;)
If you'd like to learn more about Lynda Aicher and the books she writes, including the two new books in the Wicked Play series, you can find her at her website www.lyndaaicher.com, Facebook as well as Twitter.
To celebrate the release of Bonds of Trust, the first book in the Wicked Play series Lynda is giving away a new member gift box valued at $75 from THE DEN (the club in the series) to one randomly drawn commenter during the tour (US & Canada only). Leave a meaningful comment, question, or thought about the excerpts to enter to win.
The gift box includes:
(Vibrating Silver Bullet, Red Satin Mask, Double Sided Whipper Tickler, Nylon Wrist Cuffs, Classic Butt Plug - Medium, Passion Natural Water-based Lubricant, Condoms, & a $10 Amazon Gift Card.)
Ways to earn entries:
- Mandatory: Leave a question or comment for Lynda about this book or series (good for 1 entry)
How to enter:
- Leave a comment at each stop on the blog tour to earn additional entries for the grand prize
Rules and disclaimers:
- The winner(s) will be selected randomly from among all of the comments of the blog tour by either the author or by Goddess Fish Promotions who will also be responsible for contacting the winner(s). Please contact the promoter for all the official rules and disclaimers.
- Seductive Musings is not responsible for prizes that are not honored, distributed in a timely manner, lost, stolen, or damaged during transit
- All giveaways are subject to change/cancellation without prior written notice
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